Now what about working women, I believe she is stronger physically and mentally as well. She also does all the above mentioned work but there is a little bit change in attitude and approach. In India after independence the women began participating in all activities such as education, civil science, social science, science and technology, art and culture, media and politics. Successful women like Indira Gandhi, Sonia Gandhi, Sunita Williams, Kalpana Chawla must also have done all what is required to grow healthy relationship within the family. But the question here is are they dominant, well most of the men think working women try to dominate because they are financially independent and don’t have fear of dependence on their male partner, I say why not, they do everything a man does while at work and they do everything a man cannot do or never does at home. I have seen my neighbor who’s wife is working abroad and he is working here in India and growing his 2 daughters with his parents support as well, this may sound weird to many men but yes this is how the world is changing, this is how women are taking the front seat but of course if she gets support from her male partner which presently is not the case in most of the families. There is another perspective to this, “a study by Bupa UK Health Insurance, which claims that half of all women surveyed said that they were stressed at work, while only one in three men declared that they were stressed. Dr Babita Mathur, senior lecturer in organisational development, diversity management and gender studies, explains the shift in plain terms: "Nobody invited women into the workplace. They choose to participate for whatever reason and, given that women are not stupid, they have to accept that they need to work harder to compete. Today men and women's roles are parallel." While she concedes that some progressive international organisations have, in recent years, rolled out ‘family-friendly' programmes that integrate things like child care, breastfeeding and educational facilities, flexible work hours, and time off and special child-related leave into their workplaces and policies, the prevailing reality is that most workplaces do not widely support parenthood. Dr. Mathur’s evaluations are based upon the extensive work that has gone into developing USB training programmes on women in management, organisational change and renewal, and gender sensitivity. Her position supports a growing international belief that future social and family policies should be gender-blind - this, despite statistics that corroborate the fact that women are still the primary caregivers in families. The premise is that, while minimum maternity leave is necessary for the health and wellbeing of mother and infant, all other parental leave should be available to whichever parent chooses to take it. The notion is that this allows role-reversal couples, as well as women, to be full-time parents if they so choose. The days that women hoped for special treatment because of their traditional sex-based roles have, it seems, passed. Nowadays, women need to focus on their strengths, and understand that merit, and merit alone, will move them ahead”. (Dr. Mathur’s study From
http://www.law24.com/)
(To be continued)
Not everyone, however, is yet convinced that this is enough. Infact in India we are yet to give women the status which she deserves. Women reservation bill is biting the dust in parliament for more than a decade now, reason opposition from the regional parties particularly from UP and Bihar because elections in these two states are won by muscle power and they know if they have a compulsion of fielding a women candidate they cannot show their muscle power. There are women who still have to use Ghungat/Veil in front of elders. There are educated women who wanted to work but where not allowed by their husband or in-laws only and only because they felt insecure about her independence. When we see a female smoking in urban cities we call it influence of western culture, what about those women in remote villages of India who smoke Bidi’s and Hukka’s? Are they also influenced by western culture, well certainly not, most of those women are working as labourer’s (Agriculture etc). May be they are not getting paid for cultivating their own land but they certainly are the bread earner’s for their families. My mother never used to sleep till she made sure I have eaten my dinner, my sister’s always used to sacrifice for me if we all liked same toy even though she was hardly 1 year older than me (That’s the sign of strong women’s heart). And now my wife has taken all the responsibility to ensure I get all the love and affection. So every woman definitely deservers to be on top 
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