THE WOMAN IN YOUR LIFE

HERE IS A GIRL ……
Who is as much educated as you are; who is earning almost as much as you do. One, who has dreams and aspirations just as you have …….
One, who has never entered the kitchen in her life just like you or your Sister haven't, as she was busy in studies and competing in a system that gives no special concession to girls for their culinary achievements
One, who has lived and loved her parents & brothers & sisters, almost as much as you do for 20-25 years of her life; One, who has bravely agreed to leave behind all that, her home, people who love her, to adopt your home, your family, your ways and even your family name.
One, who is somehow expected to be a master-chef from day #1, while you sleep oblivious to her predicament in her new circumstances, environment and that kitchen.
One, who is expected to make the tea, first thing in the morning and cook food at the end of the day, even if she is as tired as you are, maybe more, and yet never ever expected to complain; to be a servant, a cook, a mother, a wife, even if she doesn't want to; and is learning just like you are as to what you want from her; and is clumsy and sloppy at times and knows that you won't like it if she is too demanding, or if she learns faster than you;

One, who has her own set of friends, and that includes boys and even men at her workplace too, those, who she knows from school days and yet is willing to put all that on the back-burners to avoid your irrational jealousy, unnecessary competition and your inherent insecurities. Yes, she can drink and dance just as well as you can, but won't, simply because you won't like it, even though you say otherwise.

One, who can be late from work once in a while when deadlines, just like yours, are to be met; One, who is doing her level best and wants to make this most important, relationship in her entire life a grand success, if you just help her some and trust her…..

One, who just wants one thing from you, as you are the only one she knows in your entire house your unstinted support, your sensitivities and most importantly - your understanding, or love, if you may call it. But not many guys understand this......
Tomorrow you may get a working woman, but you should marry her with these facts as well.

Please appreciate "HER"

I hope you will do....

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WOMEN ON TOP - Part III

Not everyone, however, is yet convinced that this is enough. Infact in India we are yet to give women the status which she deserves. Women reservation bill is biting the dust in parliament for more than a decade now, reason opposition from the regional parties particularly from UP and Bihar because elections in these two states are won by muscle power and they know if they have a compulsion of fielding a women candidate they cannot show their muscle power. There are women who still have to use Ghungat/Veil in front of elders. There are educated women who wanted to work but where not allowed by their husband or in-laws only and only because they felt insecure about her independence. When we see a female smoking in urban cities we call it influence of western culture, what about those women in remote villages of India who smoke Bidi’s and Hukka’s? Are they also influenced by western culture, well certainly not, most of those women are working as labourer’s (Agriculture etc). May be they are not getting paid for cultivating their own land but they certainly are the bread earner’s for their families. My mother never used to sleep till she made sure I have eaten my dinner, my sister’s always used to sacrifice for me if we all liked same toy even though she was hardly 1 year older than me (That’s the sign of strong women’s heart). And now my wife has taken all the responsibility to ensure I get all the love and affection. So every woman definitely deservers to be on top

AND MEN REMEMBER

You don't have to be anti-man to be pro-woman.

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WOMEN ON TOP - Part II

Now what about working women, I believe she is stronger physically and mentally as well. She also does all the above mentioned work but there is a little bit change in attitude and approach. In India after independence the women began participating in all activities such as education, civil science, social science, science and technology, art and culture, media and politics. Successful women like Indira Gandhi, Sonia Gandhi, Sunita Williams, Kalpana Chawla must also have done all what is required to grow healthy relationship within the family. But the question here is are they dominant, well most of the men think working women try to dominate because they are financially independent and don’t have fear of dependence on their male partner, I say why not, they do everything a man does while at work and they do everything a man cannot do or never does at home. I have seen my neighbor who’s wife is working abroad and he is working here in India and growing his 2 daughters with his parents support as well, this may sound weird to many men but yes this is how the world is changing, this is how women are taking the front seat but of course if she gets support from her male partner which presently is not the case in most of the families. There is another perspective to this, “a study by Bupa UK Health Insurance, which claims that half of all women surveyed said that they were stressed at work, while only one in three men declared that they were stressed. Dr Babita Mathur, senior lecturer in organisational development, diversity management and gender studies, explains the shift in plain terms: "Nobody invited women into the workplace. They choose to participate for whatever reason and, given that women are not stupid, they have to accept that they need to work harder to compete. Today men and women's roles are parallel." While she concedes that some progressive international organisations have, in recent years, rolled out ‘family-friendly' programmes that integrate things like child care, breastfeeding and educational facilities, flexible work hours, and time off and special child-related leave into their workplaces and policies, the prevailing reality is that most workplaces do not widely support parenthood. Dr. Mathur’s evaluations are based upon the extensive work that has gone into developing USB training programmes on women in management, organisational change and renewal, and gender sensitivity. Her position supports a growing international belief that future social and family policies should be gender-blind - this, despite statistics that corroborate the fact that women are still the primary caregivers in families. The premise is that, while minimum maternity leave is necessary for the health and wellbeing of mother and infant, all other parental leave should be available to whichever parent chooses to take it. The notion is that this allows role-reversal couples, as well as women, to be full-time parents if they so choose. The days that women hoped for special treatment because of their traditional sex-based roles have, it seems, passed. Nowadays, women need to focus on their strengths, and understand that merit, and merit alone, will move them ahead”. (Dr. Mathur’s study From http://www.law24.com/) (To be continued)

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WOMEN ON TOP- Part I

The thing women have yet to learn is nobody gives you power. You just take it. ~Roseanne Barr
God has bestowed man the masculine strength to dominate and take the lead - when he takes a line the world is Man-centric, but man's intimately own world is women-centric. It is (closely) through her that he projects himself, achieves his goal’s and makes sure his propagation, preservation and protection.
I have not done any research on women, I am talking about women who is in everyone’s life (Mother, Sister, Wife) . Although every man claims to be head of the family without whose consent no decision is taken, but let’s look at the actual facts how much a women deserves to be on TOP.
Just think about a house wife who wakes up before anybody else in the family, prepares breakfast for everyone, gets her children ready for school, makes sure her husband’s Tiffin is ready before he leaves for work. Once every one leaves she starts her social duty like talking to a neighbor discussing family issues (most of the time about another neighbor hahaha), they give their own opinion and leave the rest of the discussion for the next day. Once the children are back from school they make sure they eat properly, get their homework done, and make sure their uniforms are clean for next day. Once tired husband comes back from work she makes sure he gets every comfort by offering him water, tea even removing his shoes and socks. By the end of the day she has made sure everyone in the family has been looked after properly. When she goes to bed another round of discussion about the neighbors, children, and relatives begins but this time with her husband even if he doesn’t pay attention to her. (To be continued...)

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